(Mature audience only. If you are under 18 or easily offended.. DO NOT READ THIS POST.)

Sex toys are something you ‘don’t’ talk about. Supposedly. In reality, get a group of women together, and it seems almost inevitable that the conversation will come up. However, there are still things that are unacceptable. It is almost acceptable now for women to have a vibrator. Acceptable for women to have a whip? That might be another thing entirely.

The attitude towards sex (and toys) has become much more relaxed in recent years. Sex shops used to be seedy or discrete looking things that respectable people did not dare venture into. Now sex shops are on High Streets, right next to clothing stores. They’re fun to visit, and while you might blush while entering one, there isn’t the same stigma attached that there used to be.

Just pray you don’t get caught by your boss walking into or out of one. Now, isn’t that ridiculous? What you do in your free time should be your own business, and no one else’s. It still isn’t though. There are still prejudices towards people who take part in behaviors that are not deemed acceptable. It’s utterly stupid. Sex is sex. Sex should be fun. You should feel free to do what is necessary (as long as its consensual) to make it fun for yourself and your partner… or just for you if you don’t have a current partner.

There’s a wealth of toys out there for you to experiment. You’re going to like some, you’re going to hate some, and some you are going to be indifferent to. However, you never know until you try.

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I’m going to start you off with the ‘easy’ ones, that most women at least have a passing familiarity with, and I’m going to try (when applicable) to give you three different selections from each  one.

1. The Vibrator – The vibrator is a wonderful thing, and while not a perfect substitute for having the real thing, it can come bloody close.  There are two main types of vibrators.

Bullets – these vibrators are small, discreet, but can still pack a punch. Now, I’m not overly fond of these types of vibrators myself, but others I know swear by them. They can come ‘bullet’ shaped, or shaped like eggs, and there are probably some other shapes out there that I’m not aware of yet.

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Life-size (sometimes smaller, sometimes way, way bigger) – These are the ones that I favor. They’re bigger, noisier, but they just do it for me. Especially the rabbit, because it has a shaft to go inside you, and bunny ears to stimulate the clitoris. The G-Spot vibrator is another great one, although I will say you should have someone use it on you. It feels much better that way for some reason. Then there is the anal vibrator. I’ve not really used an anal vibrator, but what I’ve heard from friends is that they are fantastic and a good way to prepare yourself for anal sex with your significant other.

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2. Whipping Toys – Lets face it, the best whipping toy is the flat of your SO’s hand, but there are some other ones out there that can do a bloody (pardon the pun) good job. Whips are pretty basic. You’re going to have your flogger-types, which are ‘whips’ but don’t hurt no matter how hard you hit with them (at least that I’ve found) and the ones that are going to inflict some pain. It’s up to you to decide which is right for you, and how hard you like to be hit with them.

Flogger – Made with a short handle, and several strands of medium-length short material, floggers are great for gentle stimulation. They make you feel a bit ‘explorative’ and kinky to use, but give soft, tender sensations. I recommend having your SO slap you lightly on the breasts or vagina with this.

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The Whip – There are so many types of whips out there. Short ones, long ones, single-tail, multiple-tail… So, so many. Whips are mainly for those who don’t mind a little bit of pain. I’ve been whipped, and it was definitely something that I’d have to be in the right mood for to really enjoy it, and also be with someone I trusted absolutely.

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3. Restraints – My, oh my… Restraints are a wonderful thing. The best thing is – you don’t need to go to a specialty store if you are just getting interested in restraints.  Tear a T-shirt into strips, rummage through your scarf collection… Soft scarves are some of the best restraints ever! However, just as an excuse to show you more pictures, I’m going to show you a couple of restraints you do have to go somewhere special to buy.

Fuzzy Handcuffs – Now, I don’t actually like fuzzy handcuffs. It could just be the ones I had were cheap, and therefore not well-padded. However, if you are in to role-play, handcuffs are the way to go!

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Under-the-Bed Restraints – This is very simple, very easy to install (Just slide the ropes under the mattress) and very fun. There is enough rope that you can put your SO (or the SO can put YOU) in all sorts of fun positions.

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And so ends sex ed for the day… Tune in tomorrow for a look at some of the ‘rougher stuff’!